TRUE STORY: WHAT IT MEANS TO....BE A SINGLE FATHER

 

IN SUMMARY:

He woke up one morning to the reality that his wife would not be there to mother his children anymore. And since then, Isaac Rucci has dedicated himself to being the best father and mother he can be to his daughters.


I'm a father, an artiste, businessman, emcee but most of all I am a single parent with two wonderful daughters Keza, 10, and Tona, 7. I have been since Tona was about 18 months.

How I wound up a super dad? I was married and living in the united states with my wife when we decided to come back and settle in Uganda.

At that time we had one child Keza, but within months of coming back, my wife was expectant again and we went back to the United States for the birth.

After Tona was born, my wife wasn’t too eager to come back and we worked out a plan where I would come to Uganda with the children and she would take some time alone, do something for herself for once, and join us after a few months.

The beginning of the journey
Long story short, the months came and went and then a year later, she dropped the bombshell! She was not ready to move back to Africa and well, the children were now solely my responsibility. Tona was now one-and-a-half years old and Keza around five.

My life now revolves around the two girls. I have to arrange my schedule around them and find ways of making sure they have parental love and parental presence. That means I have to be home every day at around five.

I play with them, talk to them about their day, be present as they do their homework and have dinner with them. I can go out with the boys or do any other work and social engagements after they are off to bed.
Even on particularly busy days, I make sure to dash home for at least an hour so they find me home from school. I think it is only fair that they have a parent waiting at home, since they have to live without a mother.

I woke up for nightly feedings and stayed up all night with a wailing Tona when she was younger.

The missing mumBut by far, the hardest time was when she would wake up crying for her mother. I didn’t know what to tell her and it would break my heart.

Amazingly, her older sister Keza helped her get over it. She helped us both because I would be at a loss of words at these times. She seemed to exhibit such maturity over the whole situation and patiently explained that they didn’t have a mum but they had daddy, to her little sister and it seemed to comfort the little one. It seems like she, Tona, now understands that she has the best thing one can possibly wish for, a loving available parent. She now understands and is as any other girl her age.

I have had to play an active role in my children’s life just to fill the void of growing up without their mother. My family members too, have been a great help. They surround them with warmth and attention.

I also have a nanny from heaven; she has been with us for a long time and treats the girls well.

Changing diapers and saloon trips
At first, she was amazed that I was changing diapers and bathing the children, but over time, she understood that that is who I was. I have also had to learn how to raise girls, like issues to do with their hair and other things girls, little or older care about.

I take them to the salon, know when whose hair needs retouch or treatment. I had to learn all the processes. Of course, now my girls have picked up and even know all the processes better than I do.

Ï also have special family days; Saturdays, where I spend the whole day with the girls at home. I only accept to go anywhere on these days if I can also take the girls.

I purposed from the very beginning to be a very involved parent. To be more of a friend to my children. I talk to them a lot, when they do good things and when they err. I don’t think there is anything that will or is happening in my daughter’s life that is out of bounds for us to talk about.

I have already spoken to my elder daughter about body changes and all that comes with it. I had to because she is pre-teen, very smart and is growing so fast.

So far I have not met a situation I can’t handle, or that my family members can’t help with. Like shopping for example, although I know a little about what to get them, I get a lot of help from my sister who is abroad who helps me with that.

The dark reminder
There are some things that have caught me off guard. Like once when I was summoned at school because one of my daughters had a minor incident.


It was a minor mishap but the school authorities were concerned and I had to quiz as to what led her to do what she did.

Finding no reason as to why she did it, she decided to look for the biggest she could find and said it is because she was envious of other children who had mothers.

We worked through that, after I explained that there are different types of families and this was how ours was.

The greatest joy of being a single father is that I get to be there, through it all. The laughter and the tough times. I have since learnt that time to be an involved parent is created. And I get to watch them grow and most of all play an active role.

ONA JINSI MASHABIKI WA YANGA WAFURIKA UWANJA WA NDEGE KUMPOKEA MBUYU TWITE

Beki mpya wa Mabingwa wa Kombe la Kagame, Dar Young Africans, Mbuyu Twite akiwasili kwenye Uwanja wa Ndege wa Kimataifa wa Julius Nyerere jijini Dar es Salaam jana akitokea Kigali Rwanda na kupata mapokezi makubwa kutoka kwa mashabiki wa soka.

Mchezaji nyota kutoka timu ya APR ya Rwanda Mbuyi Twite akizungumza na waandishi wa habari kwenye Uwanja wa Ndege wa Julius Nyerere jijini Dar es Salaam jana, baada ya Yanga kumpa mapokezi makubwa alipowasili jana kukipiga na timu hiyo.

Mbuyu Twite akiwa amevalishwa jezi namba 4 iliyoandikwa Rage

Moja wa mashabiki aliyekuja katika mapokezi ya Mbuyu Twite akiwa amelala chini


Mashabiki wa Yanga.Picha zote na Mdau Francisdande, Habari na Sosthenes Nyoni
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TWITE, Twite, Twite' kiitikio 'Rage, Rage, Rage' ndiyo wimbo uliotawala jana kwenye Uwanja wa Ndege wa Kimataifa wa Julius Nyerere wakati beki mpya wa Yanga, Mbuyu Twite alipowasili akitokea Rwanda.

Wimbo huo ulikuwa ukiimbwa na mamia ya mashabiki wa Yanga wake kwa waume waliofurika uwanjani hapo kwa ajili ya kumpokea beki huyo.

Kwa wiki kadhaa Twite aliteka hisia za mashabiki wa timu za Yanga na Simba ambazo ni baada ya beki huyo kusajiliwa na timu hizo kabla ya yeye mwenyewe kuikana Simba na kuamua kuichezea Yanga.

Kitendo hicho, kilisababisha kuzuka kwa malumbano baina ya viongozi wa klabu hizo mbili na kufuatiwa na tamko la Makamu mwenyekiti wa Simba, Godfrey Nyange Kaburu kusema kuwa watamkamata Twite na kumfikisha kwenye vyombo vya sheria atakapokanyaga ardhi ya Tanzania.

Hata hivyo licha ya vitisho hivyo vya Kaburu, hakuna kiongozi yeyote wa Simba aliyeonekana uwanjani hapo kumsubiri beki huyo kwa ajili ya kumtia mikononi kama ilivyotarajiwa.

Mara baada ya kuwasili uwanjani hapo majira ya saa10.30 jioni, Twite alipokewa na viongozi wa Yanga wakiongozwa na katibu mkuu wa timu hiyo, Selestine Mwesigwa na alikabidhiwa jezi namba 4 yenye jina la Rage kama ushindi dhidi ya wapinzani wao Simba.

Mara baada ya kukabidhiwa jezi hiyo, Twite alizungumza na waandishi wa habari na kusema kuwa umati aliouhushuhudia uwanjani hapo ulimpa moyo wa kuona jinsi mashabiki wa Yanga wanavyomjali.

"Nimeshangaa sana kuona watu wengi kiasi hiki, hii inadhihirisha ni kiasi gani mashabiki wananijali, nami nasema sitawaangusha, jambo la muhimu ni ushirikiano tu kutoka kwao na uongozi mzima wa Yanga ili malengo yafikiwe,"alisema Twite.

Alipoulizwa anazungumziaje mpango wa Simba kutaka kumkamata kwa madai ya kuwatapeli, Twite alisema,"kwa sasa siwezi kuzungumzia hilo, nadhani nitafanya hivyo baadaye."

Baada ya mahojiano na Wanahabari, Twite alipanda gari dogo na moja kwa moja msafara ulioongozwa na mabasi yaliyokuwa yamebeba mashabiki wa Yanga ulielekea makao makuu ya klabu hiyo yaliyoko Mtaa wa Jangwani.

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Warembo wakifuatilia shindano hilo, niwarembo wa miaka ya nyuma Ilala na Kinondoni



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Huge wildfire reaches Marbella in southern Spain

The huge fire now threatens many holiday homes on the Costa del Sol

A huge wildfire is approaching the wealthy resort of Marbella on Spain's Costa del Sol, where the authorities have evacuated thousands of people.

Flames reached the Elviria area on the edge of Marbella early on Friday.

Overnight the fire spread rapidly through a 12km (eight-mile) coastal strip packed with holiday homes.

About 1,000 people have been evacuated from the edge of Marbella, about 3,300 from Ojen and others from a camp site at Alpujata, Spanish media report.

Two people have suffered serious burns and some homes have been engulfed by the fire.


The Costa del Sol is one of Spain's most popular holiday destinations and home to a large British expatriate community.

Marbella is famous for its up-market hotels and villas - it is a favourite haunt of wealthy foreigners.

Much of Spain's countryside was left tinder-dry this summer by a prolonged heatwave. There have been major wildfires in northern Catalonia - near the Pyrenees - and on La Gomera, in the Canary Islands.

A change in wind direction has given firefighters hope that the blaze can be contained soon.

More than 250 firefighters are battling the blaze, helped by 17 aircraft, Spain's El Pais news website says.

The fire started on Thursday afternoon in the Sierra Negra area of Coin, near Malaga and has now affected an area of some 1,000 hectares (2,471 acres). It cut part of the AP-7 highway and it is not yet clear how many homes have been damaged or destroyed.

DR SLAA AMJIBU WAZIRI SITTA, AIBUA MAMBO MAZITO

Katibu mkuu huyo wa Chadema Taifa Dkt Slaa ameibua mambo mazito juu ya waziri Sitta na serikali yake katika mkutano huo na kueleza mikakati mbali mbali ya Chadema .

Dkt Slaa akiwa katika mkutano wake na wanahabari mkoa wa Iringa katika ukumbi wa Hoteli ya M.R

katibu mkuu wa Chadema Dkt Slaa akionyesha baadhi ya vielelezo kwa wanahabari leo mjini Iringa

Habari kamili juu ya kile ambacho Dkt Slaa amekisema mkoani Iringa leo utapata hivi punde

MKUTANO MKUU WA WANAHISA TBL

Mwenyekiti wa Bodi ya Wakurugenzi ya Kampuni ya Bia Tanzania (TBL), ambaye pia ni Waziri Mkuu mstaafu, Cleopa Msuya (kulia) akihutubia wakati wa ufunguzi wa Mkutano Mkuu wa 39 wa Wanahisa kwenye Hoteli ya Kilimanjaro Hyatt Regency, Dar es Salaam jana.

Mwanahisa wa Kampuni ya Bia Tanzania (TBL), Mchiwa Chedego akiuliza swali wakati wa Mkutano Mkuu wa 39 wa Wanahisa kwenye Hoteli ya Kilimanjaro Hyatt Regency, Dar es Salaam jana.

Mwanahisa Arphaxar Masambu akichangia hoja wakati wa mkutano huo.



Mwenyekiti wa Bodi ya Wakurugenzi ya Kampuni ya Bia Tanzania (TBL), ambaye pia ni Waziri Mkuu mstaafu, Cleopa Msuya (kulia) akifafanua jambo wakati wa Mkutano Mkuu wa 39 wa Wanahisa kwenye Hoteli ya Kilimanjaro Hyatt Regency, Dar es Salaam jana. Kutoka kushoto ni Mkurugenzi wa Uhusiano na Sheria, Steve Kilindo pamoja na Mkurugenzi Mtendaji wa kampuni hiyo, Robin Goetzsche.

Wanahisa wakiperuzi taarifa ya hesabu za kampuni hiyo kwamaka 2012/13
Sehemu ya wanahisa wakiwa katika mkutano huo wa mwaka
Baadhi ya wajumbe wa Bodi ya Wakurugenzi wa Kampuni hiyo

Mkurugenzi wa Uhusiano na Sheria wa TBL, Steve Kilindo (kushoto) akiteta jambo na Mkurugenzi Mtendaji wake, Robin Goetzsche
Baadhi ya wanahisa wakiwa katika mkutano huo
Mwanahisa Adrian Makelele akichangia hoja wakati wa mkutano huo

Mkurugenzi Mtendaji wa TBL, Robin Goetzsche akijibu maswali ya wanahisa. Kulia ni Mwenyekiti wa Bodi, Cleopa Msuya.

Mwanahisa Zainab Ramadhan akiuliza swali kuhusu masuala ya kununua hisa
Mwenyekiti wa Bodi. Msuya (kulia) akijibu maswali ya waandishi wa habari

Wanahisa wakipata kifungua kinywa
Ni msosi kwa kwenda mbele



Mwenyekiti wa Bodi ya Wakurugenzi ya Kampuni ya Bia Tanzania (TBL), ambayepia ni Waziri Mkuu mstaafu, Cleopa Msuya (kulia) akizungumza na Mkurugenzi Mtendaji wa kampuni hiyo, Robin Goetzsche.wakati wa Mkutano Mkuu wa 39 wa Wanahisa kwenye Hoteli ya Kilimanjaro Hyatt Regency, Dar es Salaam jana.

Mkurugenzi wa Fedha wa TBL, Kelvin O'Flaherty akijadiliana jambo na Katibu wa kiwanda hicho, pamoja na Mkurugenzi wA Uhuiano na Sheria wa TBL, Steve Kilindo (katikati).

Bodi ya Wakurugenzi wa Kampuni ya Bia Tanzania (TBL) ikiongozwa na Mwenyekiti wa Bodi ya Wakurugenzi ya TBL, Waziri Mkuu mstaafu, Cleopa Msuya (katikati waliokaa) wakiwa katika picha ya pamoja na wanahisa baada ya Mkutano Mkuu wa Wanahisa wa kampuni hiyo kumalizika jana jijini Dar es Salaam.